Do your human revolution and winter will turn to spring

There is always a tendency to blame others for the problems we faced, rather than examining if these problems were actually caused by our actions/behaviours, directly or indirectly. Instead of having this attitude when facing the possibility of a divorce, this member did her human revolution, deepen her faith, chanted stronger daimoku and participated in kosen-rufu. Eventually, she saved her marriage. You can also read her first testimonial by clicking here.

I started chanting in June 2011, daily for at least 1 to 2 hours, sometime even more than 2 hours. I took up faith with Nichiren Buddhism because of the relationship with my husband.

I have been sincerely practicing daimoku with precise prayer. 6 months ago, I was suffering from a broken relationship with my husband.

I was very sad, as I do not wish to have such broken family/relationship and I always wish to give my children a very harmonious family.

When I was almost about to give up the relationship, a Soka Gakai member gave me a lot of support, sharing her experience on how she overcame and rescued her marriage through Nichiren Buddhism.

The problem that I faced was not a simple one. It was the results of family and relationship issues, personality and job pressure from both parties.

All these created the reasons for divorce.

I took up faith in Nichiren Buddhism and made the decision to take up the challenge to rescue marriage life.

A week after I started chanting sincerely, my husband sent me a message telling me “he need more time to do the best on family, and hope to have my understanding on him”.

It was a miracle from daimoku to the Gohonzon. The divorce did not proceed. Thus, I continued to increase daimoku daily to clear my karma.

I know this was my karma, which caused my husband to be under depression in a “world of darkness”. I vow to change my karma; to turn winter into spring; to change poison to medicine.

Through the chanting, I know everything happened with a reason.

It seemed like my life took the path to take up faith in Nichiren Buddhism because of this marriage issue. Through the chanting, my relationship with my in-law also improve and we become closer day-by-day.

Chanting to the Gohonzon is like a mirror reflecting ourselves; we become aware of our weaknesses.  I started to change my weakness and do my human revolution to build a better relationship with my husband.

Even though the divorce is out of the way at this moment, the problem between us could not be simply resolved overnight.

However, I never give up every bad thing that happened in my life. I continue with my strong prayer, attend weekly meeting and do kosen-rufu.

I believe deeply in the Gohonzon that I will turn my life to spring in one day soon.

“The process of changing poison into medicine begins when we approach difficult experiences as an opportunity to reflect on ourselves and to strengthen and develop our courage and compassion. Suffering can thus serve as a springboard for a deeper experience of happiness. From the perspective of Buddhism, inherent in all negative experiences is this profound positive potential.”

Whenever bad/worst thing happened, I would chant to the Gohonzon with a precise prayer.

“Apologize to the Gohonzon whatever I did wrong in previous time and current time, I must turn the poison into medicine.”

As a result of this unwavering faith, all bad circumstances improve for the better without any expectation.

Through chanting, I started to change my personality, thinking and attitude. Before I took up faith with Nichiren Buddism, I like to nag my family members and at my husband for not helping with the housework even he was back from work and was very tired and feeling down.

After chanting, I now have a positive thinking.

Before, I like to compare others’ husbands with mine but after chanting daimoku, I learned that nobody is perfect. I have to accommodate the weakness of my partner, cherish the life that he has given me – this is a true love towards my husband.

I know that I need more daimoku to get my husband out from a “dark” situation.

Even though I know he was very close with a married woman (she was going through a divorce with her husband), I never give up our marriage.

I continue chanting to and have deep faith in the Gohonzon. I will turn winter to spring soon. I chanted sincerely to the Gohonzon that my hubby will be able to apprehend the situation clearly and correctly.

With precise and strong daimoku for a few months, he did not contact that woman anymore.

I am really thankful to the Gohonzon and the faith in Nichiren Buddhism. Nowadays, our relationship become better day-by-day, and we are planning for our new baby soon.

I am sending a lot of daimoku to my husband everyday whenever I am chanting. I pray to the Gohonzon that I want my husband to be a capable leader and contribute to kosen-rufu.

Nichiren Daishonin stated, “If both of you unite in encouraging their [your husbands’] faith, you will follow the path of the Dragon King’s daughter and become the model for women attaining enlightenment in the evil latter Day of the Law” (MW-1, 146).

My first testimonial was published on this blog on 12 Nov 2011. I would like to share more with all the members and wish that my testimonial could help everyone to handle their relationship problem with their family/husband.

I wish everyone would have great wisdom from chanting daimoku.

Remember – Do not give up even we are facing any problem/obstacles during our daimoku to the Gohonzon.

The problems that happen in our life are our negative karma and we have to chant strong daimoku whether we are sad or happy.

For those Soka members who need my help and advice, you can probably give me your email, contact number in the post, I will try my best to contact you.

Note from the Editor – For those of you who wish to contact the member who contributed this testimonial, please send your email/contact details to actualproof[at]yahoo.com {[at] = @} and we will forward it to her, so that your contact details are kept confidential.

The Four Victories

A member from India, who has been practicing Nichiren Buddhism for two years, is sharing with us how she gained four victories in her life since she took up faith.  Besides overcoming the problems she went through, her strong faith and sincere practice also help her to achieved her own human revolution.  Read on to see how she wins.  The member has requested for her name to be kept confidential.

When I sat to write my experience to share at this discussion meeting, I didn’t know where to start, and got fairly overwhelmed with a lot of emotions and multiple thoughts.

My entire life in the past six months flashed in front of me and I broke into a smile. This smile was of peace and contentment and above all, victory, and that too, is not just one but multiple victories in all aspects of my life including finance, profession and relationships.

This experience is like “the before and after” advertisements that we very often see around, so my experience is like how me and my life were before, and it is right now after taking up faith.

There have been a lot of ups and downs in my life in the past few months, but I kept faith as the centre of my life.

Today, I can proudly say that owing to my solid faith, daily practice and superb and timely guidance by my leaders, I have emerged as a winning disciple of Ikeda sensei.

I think the entire crux of my practice and victory thereby has been because of the ‘shift’ that I have been able to bring about with the power of Nam-myoho-renge-kyo.  From an anxious person, I have now become an earnest person.

Nichiren Daishonin said, “Whatever trouble occurs, regard it as no more than a dream and think only of the lotus sutra.”

This Gosho has literally brought about a revolution in my life.  I quote from the first part – YOU MUST GRIT YOUR TEETH AND NEVER SLACKEN IN YOUR FAITH!

These strong words have a strong impression on me.  Grit my teeth I did, whenever I was faced with an issue or came upon a obstacle, I chanted fervent daimoku with a strong determination to overcome the problem.

My prayers have always been very focused and direct, with each daimoku, I would pray for being wiser, more courageous and more compassionate, the three traits of a Buddha.

With the sword of the Mystic Law, I attacked each and every devil of karma that was trying to defeat me.

Talking about issues and obstacles, there have been many till date. I have overcome them with stupendous faith and I’m sharing these victories with all my friends and comrades in faith.

Victory No. 1
I’ve had many maid issues.  I realized that I had ‘servant karma’.  My maid who was there with me in the latter stages of my pregnancy and after I’ve given birth decided to leave with no notice.

I was in ‘deep hell’ because I lost my mum a while back and we stay separately from our in-laws. I was under stress with looking after my baby, the house and my husband.

I was constantly angry. I felt very helpless and alone and took guidance, which I always take seriously and started to test the power of my faith.

I started chanting for a house helper who could just appear from nowhere and save me.  This didn’t happen overnight but refusing to give up, I maintain steadfast faith and deepen my practice.  I felt ‘lighter’ and a lot calmer.

In due course, I got a house helper who takes great care of the house and the baby too.  This helper is always eager to take on responsibilities and is forever smiling.

Victory No. 2
I had to take a break of more than a year from my work – throughout the term of my pregnancy as I was not in good health and I also had to be at home with the baby after given birth.  This meant that we were surviving on our savings. Our expenses were rising and there was no sign of any income to take care of the family.

Keeping faith, I decided to challenge this karma head-on.

As Nichiren Daishonin said, “No prayers made earnestly to the Gohonzon will go unanswered… chant to get water from parched land and to produce fire from wet timber.”

Soon enough, in the second quarter of 2010, my mother-in-law (can you imagine) and I decided to start a business enterprise together.  That’s how our first shop came about.

It received great reviews and business is brisk. Within a short time, we were able to open another much bigger store. Money started coming in slowly and steadily and our finances improve.

This sounds great so far but there is more to come…

I was growing in my practice and just like one of the Goshos stated, “As practice progresses and understanding grows, the three obstacles and four devils emerge in confusing form, vying with one another to interfere…” Another karmic attack was waiting for me around the corner.

Victory No. 3
Since marriage and a little before that, I’ve not had a great relationship with my in-laws.

In fact, it’s been cordial and to the point.  However, since we were doing business together, we had to interact almost on an hourly basis.  This used to affect me no end as I would be constantly on guard and felt very edgy with them around us all the time.

I soon realized that I  was begrudging my life and theirs and decided to change the way I felt.

After taking guidance from my senior in faith, I was told again and again that it’s my karma and the power to expiate it is within me – all the readings and guidance directed me to change myself.

I got awakened to this great realization that the power to change my environment was within me. I just had to tap it from inside me by chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo.

Since the practice teaches us to respect oneself and others, I prayed to elevate my in-laws’ and my life condition to reach the state of Buddhahood.

From that day, the situation has improved tremendously. I have seen drastic changes in their behavior towards me. I feel more accepted and respected and this is because I changed my environment.

Today, when I go work, I leave my baby under their care and supervision.  This would be a next to impossible thought for me in the past.

Victory No. 4
Talking of work, I come to my fourth victory.

Even after the smooth setting up and success of our business, I was not happy.

I was very unhappy simply because I had changed my field of work. I have spent more than 10 years in the media and entertainment industry, and reached great heights and was drawing a five-figure salary.

One fine day, I found myself feeling lowly and degraded while trying to sell things to people at the store.

On one hand, I was taking pride in becoming a businesswoman and starting my own enterprise.  However, I deeply and sorely missed my world of television. Internally, I was divided between the two and felt terrible.

I constantly kept feeling that I was written off and will not be able to find any decent work in television.

I came upon a line in a Gosho where Nichiren Daishonin said to “view our present struggles as an opportunity to build and strengthen our character so that we remain undaunted in the face of any hardship”

I decided to face my karma smilingly and daringly and started to take onus and responsibility of the business.

But deep within my heart, I had a thief of doubt and anxiety hiding as I kept thinking my prayer to be able to work in television is just not getting answered.

I began to doubt my practice and felt that I was not doing something right.  I went back to the Gohonzon, studies and my seniors with only one question, “WHY?”

A particular guidance given to me revealed how I have been practicing my faith so far – I was doing self-centred practice – pretty much only thinking of things that affected me and my life.

I was told to bring about a SHIFT in my prayers, to get awakened to my mission in life, to do kosen-rufu.  Now, we have all heard this word many times. Every time I heard this word “kosen-rufu”, to me, it would mean attending meetings, going to members’ homes for chanting and sharing studies together.

Ikeda sensei decribes kosen-rufu as:

“Since the word myo means to open up, I decided to chant freely and address a lot more bigger issues in my prayer that covered my family, my surroundings, my society and even our very own district… I would pray for each and every member of the district to be strong and steadfast in their faith and be victorious…”

I realized that I just didn’t pray like, and changed how I pray.

Last month, I got a call from a key media company to join them as soon as possible. I could not believe my ears and the rest, as they say is history. I am working on an upcoming mega media event!!!

This is my determination moving forward:

Whatever trouble may occur, consider it as transitory as a dream and think only of the Lotus Sutra.

How a Strong Lady Wins by Refusing to be Beaten by the Situations She Faced

This is an inspiring testimonial by Ms Pooja Bajaj from India, who took up faith in Nichiren Buddhism and started chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo from 3 May 2009. Not only has she surmounted the challenges she faced after her divorce, Pooja also escaped serious harm in an accident.  We hope her experience will encourage those members who are facing similar problems as those that Pooja has overcome.

Good evening. I am Pooja Bajaj and working as a Training Manager in an online media company. I want to thank all of you for giving me the opportunity to share my mystical journey in faith. I have been sincerely practicing this philosophy from 3 May 2009.

Even before joining the practice I have always believed in the theory of karma, that we create our own karma and thus create our own lives.

When I was introduced to this life transforming philosophy, I was going through the worst phase of my life. I was suffering from a broken relationship as I had just got divorced from my husband whom I loved the most in my life. Getting married to him was a dream come true.

Being with him I always considered myself as the happiest person on earth, but everything shattered…

Immediately after our marriage he totally stopped working, as he believed that the stars were not in his favor and totally stayed at home. He also made me quit my job because his ego did not allow him to see his wife working and being independent.

After we had our daughter in 2004, the situation got worst as by then, he became a complete alcoholic and even used to get violent and physically abuse me. As situation were getting worst for everyone in the family, my parents decided to take me and my daughter with them. We finally divorced in just within four months of filing the procedure.

I found myself fighting to adjust to the never expected situation with my one and a half year-old daughter. I moved to Nainital for one year and started working with a hotel. It was then in 2006 when one day one of my clients told me about chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo, and asked me to attend the meeting in their house.

Though I went to attend the meeting and also chanted with them, I doubted that how few words of which I don’t even know the meaning can bring change in my life. Though I used to attend the meetings but I was not chanting, as I was somehow not feeling connected!

In 2007, my daughter and I came back to Delhi and I took up a job with a company, as it was extremely essential for the survival of my family and me. Being in the same city and same colony as my ex-husband, we used to cross paths time and again and I would get really disturbed and upset.

I was handling all the hardships of taking care of my daughter and my family along with a new and demanding job. I have to struggle through the emotional turbulence, whether I should patch up again with my husband for the sake of our daughter’s life or not.

I was going through these problems alone. I never shared these feelings with my parents because I did not want them to suffer on my account.

In spite of being a very strong person, I use to continuously feel a sense of hopelessness and unhappiness in my life. It was then that in 2009, one of my friends spoke to me about the practice and invited me for the 3 May meeting. I readily accepted the invitation. In the meeting I got really inspired by listening to some of the wonderful experiences which I could relate to and felt a sense of peace in my heart.

After attending the 3 May meeting, I started chanting regularly, attend meetings and read books and articles on this Nichiren Buddhist philosophy. Then I met a senior in faith who gave me lot of confidence in the practice and told me to resolve as the SUN of the family.

She also told me that chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo would change the life condition in the family and in addition, these benefits will go on to the next seven generations.

I started receiving a lot of benefits through chanting daimoku. Most of them were inconspicuous as I could see my attitude changing. I am now more composed, calm and balanced while handling difficult situations. I also have become more patient.

Earlier I used to sometimes doubt my own decision of walking out of my husband’s house and would feel shattered and broken. I also would always blame my ex-husband for ruining my daughter’s life and mine.

However, after regular chanting, I started getting clarity and realized that whatever I decided and did was right. I honestly feel gratitude towards him because it is actually not his fault but just our karmas. In fact, now I pray for his happiness, good health and wisdom.

On my job front, at this time of recession, I was at a great risk of loosing my job. I am working with a sales oriented company as a HR Trainer. Mystically at a time when everyone’s job security was at risk, I was given added and multiple responsibilities, as well as many recognition from my company.

With my new profile, I have the good fortune to meet many influential and positive-thinking people. I received a lot of appreciation from my senior management for accomplishing successful counseling and training sessions with the existing employees. I realized my own capabilities and grow in confidence.

I also made a determination in the beginning of this year to buy a house for my daughter and me before 2011. I started chanting earnestly and participate in the discussions and songs during Gakkai meetings. I began to work hard on the planning and arranging funds to buy the property.

When everything was falling in place, suddenly after two years, my current organization changed their policy from five to six working days.

I was not able to accept this change because of the personal challenges I face and have to manage them of managing lot of things alone, and need to spend time with my daughter and participate in Gakkai meetings.

I became upset and depressed.

But immediately I could recall a guidance from one of my senior in faith – rather than just feeling worried, we should chant in front of Gohonzon to seek guidance whenever we face a problem.

I started exerting myself more in Gakkai meetings with the determination not to miss my gongyo and daimoku in any situation. I began to pray for a five-day workweek and improvement in my financial situation to meet daily necessities as well as increasing expenses of the expected loan to buy the house.

My prayers were answered when, to my surprise, I got a wonderful job offer with almost 25% increase in pay and a better designation. Moreover, even though this company works six days a week, they agreed to my request to work only five days, excluding Saturdays and Sundays.

But still I was apprehensive about this new company. A Gakkai senior advised me to do abundant daimoku to pray for Buddhist gods to reveal the answers by entering into the lives of people around me.

I joyfully increased my chanting duration from 20 minutes to one hour. I am happy to report that I joined this organization last month and am quite satisfied with the position and exposure.

I would like to share one more recent life saving experience. Because of the protective powers of Gohonzon, I escaped death mystically.

On 17 April, I woke up as usual in the morning to prepare milk for my daughter in the kitchen. I was not aware that the gas pipe was damaged with gas leaking the whole night. The moment I lighted the burner with gas lighter, I could see only huge flames around me.

Immediately, my whole body – my face, neck, arms and legs were engulfed in flames.

I suddenly got the wisdom to handle the situation, and instead of getting confused and started to panic, I remained calm and immediately switched off the burner and tried to control the fire on me.

With all the good fortune of chanting daimoku and protection from Gohonzon, I did not have any burnt/rashes; I only suffered a little burning of my eye lashes.

I am really happy to share these victories with you. I realize that though there are lot more things to be managed, and in spite of all the hardships, what matters most is the end result. This is the feeling of courage, wisdom and peace.

As Ikeda sensei says, “Most important than winning is not to be defeated. It is not important that you always win, what is important is that you don’t loose.”

I realize that all the problems that come my way actually help me to polish my life and help me to exert in faith.

I am determined in my heart that I would not allow myself to be defeated by my worries and problems, and to emerge victorious while handling all my responsibilities as a single parent, as a daughter and at work.

Today I make a strong determination in my heart that I’ll keep on growing in this practice of faith, that I will have control over my emotional disturbances which I still encounter at times, to face and fight all the challenges of life with full faith and courage.

I will report more victories and will face and fight all the challenges of life with strong faith and courage.